A small story:
At Naucratis, in Egypt, dwelled one of the ancient gods of that
country, the one whose scared bird is called the ibis, and the name of the
god himself was Theuth. It was he who invented numbers, and arithmetic and
geometry, and astronomy, also draughts, and dice, and, most important of all,
letters. Now the king of all Egypt at that time was the god Thamus, who lived
in the great city of the upper region, which the Greeks call the Egyptian
Thebes, and they call the god himself Ammon. To him came Theuth to show his
inventions, saying that they ought to be imparted to the other Egyptians. But
Ammon asked what use there was in each, and as Theuth enumerated their uses,
expressed praise or blame, according as he approved or disapproved. The story
goes that Ammon said many things to Theuth in praise or blame of the various
arts, which would take to long to repeat, but when they came to letters,
"This invention, O king," said Theuth, "will make the Egyptians wiser, and
will improve their memories; for it is an elixir of memory and wisdom that I
have discovered."
But Ammon replied, "Most ingenious Theuth, one man has the
ability to beget arts, but the ability to judge of their usefulness or
harmfulness to their users belongs to another; and now you, who are the
father of letters, have been led by your affection to ascribe to them a power
opposite of that which they really possess. For this invention will produce
forgetfulness in the minds of those who learn to use it, because they will
not practice their memory. Their trust in writing, produced by external
characters which are no part of themselves, will discourage the use of their
own memory within them. You have invented an elixir not of memory, but of
reminding; and you offer your pupils the appearance of wisdom, not true
wisdom, for they will read many things without instruction and will therefore
seem to know many things, when they are for the most part ignorant and hard
to get along with, since they are not wise, but only appear wise.
-Plato's Phaedrus
It is obvious to say that not every word has the same meaning for everyone. Not only that, but think about the differences in meaning when you try to translate from another language. Every language has its own mode of thought behind it, so that the word "groceries", in English doesn't have the exact same meaning as it may in German. In fact, it doesn't. The German word for groceries, lebensmittel, means, literally translated, "stuff for living". Now, that is an approximation of what groceries are, but actually contains a few things that we, as Americans, wouldn't count as groceries. If that small difference in two words can be problematic in speaking with someone from Germany, imagine how difficult it could be trying to negotiate a treaty. It is though a second set of beliefs need to be learned before someone could really learn a second language.
So, what about even the difference between areas of the country; north and south, east and west, and even city, and country, in some states, where the cultural makeup can be quite different. People in the north don't say "y'all" or call sneakers "tennis shoes" or have anything called "country gravy". It is right, however to agree that some terms used by southerners are understood in the north, but some aren't, because there just is no equivalent in the area. People across the nation have different living conditions, and those special conditions will spark its own lingo that everyone from the area knows and understands, but someone from out of that area may have no idea what a person is talking about.
To give an example, someone once asked me to get them a "greenie" from the bar. Now I had absolutely no idea what that person had meant, until I asked. "A greenie is a Heniken." She explained. "We called them greenies down in St. Thomas because it's the only beer that comes in a green bottle, down there." Oh, well that makes sense, but since I've never set foot on St. Thomas once, I didn't know.
How can one be romantic, and politically correct at the same time? With some difficulty, it can be done, but I would think it takes some of the passion out of it. Think about it, if a man were to write a poem to a woman today, and say; "My darling, you are mine, and forever shall be." A woman's response to that might be; "You don't OWN me."..Already a misunderstanding, unless, of course the man actually wished to buy an sell her like a common good. Doubtful in this day and age, but sometimes you never know. I suppose one way to deal with this is through action, not words, but that can get you pegged, too. A Catch 22 situation.
So, what to do? It's not good to generalize about someone, since that can lead to problems, since the individual gets overlooked. We should look then, to the individual level, and start there, since everyone's opinions are different. If someone wants to be called something in particular (hopefully that will be their name, with any luck) then they should be called that. After all, we are all human beings, with different thoughts, and beliefs, and that is how we should look at people; we all belong to the great family that is Homo sapiens, and not "Asian" or "African" or "European". Those are only titles that generalize what piece of dirt that we came from, and rarely tell much about a person, if anything at all. Respect the thoughts of a person, and they will respect you back. There is no need for the pussy-footing quick-fix of political correctness when real honest character will do much better.
We can see this problem at work in online "chat" rooms. Of course, there are little ASCII tricks that can be used to put inflection in things, but a lot of what someone is trying to say gets lost in the digital domain of bits and bytes. You simply can't put heart and soul into ones and zeros. At least, not yet..someone is probably working on that somewhere in some virtual time-dimension lab that only exists for them. Can it be that we are becoming a society of emotionless dullards that cannot truly express themselves because we never had to before? I doubt that is true, for now, but could be a possibility in the near future, and that is a scary thought.
Siwrnai dda.